Nontobeko's blog

I THINK ABOUT DEATH A LOT

I haven't made peace with the fact that I'll die one day because I don't know the technicalities step by step (as in what happens after you take your last breath). But everytime I'm about to do something no matter how insignificant it seems, I ask myself "Would you be content if this was the last thing you did on Earth?" If the answer is not yes, I'm probably doing something I don't want to do.

I ATTENDED BOARDING SCHOOL

This experience shaped 50% of who I am today. I don't watch TV because at boarding school it never made sense to watch it with 60+ girls. People always made comments from the beginning of a show till the end. So I completely scratched off TV in my life after that. I drink water only because I drank so much juice and fizzy drinks to last me a lifetime. I can live on the bare minimum, it doesn't take much for me to be content. I think distance from your loved ones is healthy and necessary.

I'M TWENTY SOMETHING

Simply put, I have an existential crisis every month questioning if I'm headed in the right direction. I want a car but also want to travel the world. On Saturdays I want to stay at home and read a book but also want to go on adventures with my friends. I'm learning that life is about trade-offs.

I'M COMMITTED

I used to hate this about myself as a kid because I couldn't half-arse anything. I saw my peers getting so much joy from just doing things poorly. It pains me to do anything for the sake of doing it. I give everything I do my all, that might look different on different days. This doesn't mean I am a perfectionist, it means that I pour my time, energy and care in all I do. Whether I'm working, answering a text, listening to a friend, writing in my journal or cooking. I'd rather not do something if I'm not going to give it my all. Since life has no formula I'm sometimes required to do things even when I don't want to, what helps during those moments is my self-discipline.